The standard way is to consult with a lawyer and an MD once a seed source has agreed to make a donation. The lawyer is there to make sure all parties agree to an agreement that can later stand up when the parties disagree. The MD is there to get the cargo injected in a sanitary, safe, and effective way. Change any part of this dynamic and you get the following sad story.
Angela Bauer, 40, and partner Jennifer Schreiner, 34, placed an ad on Craigslist three years ago looking for a sperm daddy. William Marotta answered the call.
The three signed a 'legal' document which alleviated Mr Marotta, a married mechanic from responsibility and rights to the child. And exited the picture. Nine months later Jennifer delivered a daughter. Angela and Jennifer were jazzed. And William was, as agreed, not in the loop.
Then Angela got sick, Jennifer lost her job and the two parted ways. Jennifer applied for welfare and that's when the feeble 'legal' document Bill signed collapsed. In order to recieve benefits Jennifer was 'forced' to reveal Bill's name. An attorney for the Department of Children and Families went to court seeking a ruling that Bill is the father of Schreiner's child and owes a duty to support her.
Bill is insisting his role was that of sperm donor, not father. Both Jennifer and Angela are backing Bill and say they are gratefull for his giving them their daughter.
In the end, the whole thing stinks of course. Angela and Jennifer could not marry and the state is going after a sperm donor for child support. Let no good deed go unpunished.